To many people, I am a conundrum. To those that don’t know me that well I appear strong, forthright and confident on the one hand, full of opinion and gusto especially when I am passionate about something. And then there are times when I can appear as a child – tearful, fearful, anxious about the […]Read More You are perfect as you are – please be kind to yourself
I’m depressed. There’s no coating it, there’s no glossing over it, and there is absolutely no point in pretending that I’m not having an episode of deep depression. There is an argument floating around that writing about dark stuff on a personal level reduces readers, that people don’t want to read about the horrors of […]Read More Thoughtfulness Cards – acknowledging depression and suicide
“I’m dropping out of school!” The words ring in my ears. Desperation. Hurt. Anger. Anguish. I see all of these things when I look into his eyes. “Love…” “Don’t talk mum, I am DROPPING OUT OF SCHOOL!” He has reached implosion point. “I’m 18, I don’t fucking well have to stay in school.” It’s true, […]Read More Autism, the puzzle piece that refuses to fit, and thank goodness for that
Master J is struggling. Exams are looming and English is proving a bigger problem than we ever imagined. The limitations of autism are increasingly evident. Things that come naturally to us neuro-typicals are an enormous struggle for him. Language, with all of its complexities, its nuances, its foibles, pass him by. He lives in his […]Read More Be patient. Be kind. If you cannot, say nothing.
I really debated with myself about writing this. I don’t want to add to the pain, but on balance, it is something that I need to say. I need to write this. Last week I subscribed to a blog. It was a blog full of lovely things, and I’ve been struggling a bit emotionally lately, […]Read More BEING A BLOGGER DOES NOT GIVE US THE RIGHT TO SAY WHATEVER WE WANT
Dear family member or friend of the depressed person, I am writing to you today because I want to thank you, acknowledge you and embrace you. It is hard to be there for us depressives who constantly see no joy in the world; who do not see the value in ourselves – the value that […]Read More DEAR FAMILY MEMBER OR FRIEND OF THE DEPRESSED PERSON
Generosity. What does it mean to you? Is it the same as giving? Is it more than giving? What exactly is it and how do we know it when it’s happening? My grandmother was a generous person. As a child, I remember walking to her house with my parents for Sunday lunch. Being working […]Read More Generosity – what does it mean?
If you had the opportunity, would you go back to that one person who hurt you so badly and let them have it? All that visceral anger that you have been harbouring, unleashed. One of the traits of someone living with depression is that we tend to ruminate, especially on those people or incidents that […]Read More Piece of mind vs Peace of mind
Today is Monday, and it is also the 1st December. The first day of summer for those of us in Australia. The first day of the advent calendar countdown for Christmas. It is a good day to begin the process of contemplation. Contemplating the year that was. Contemplating the year that might be. On […]Read More What I can say with certainty is that kindness matters!
Gosh, what a day it has been, and it is only 2pm. Thank goodness it is Friday, right? We are renovating our bedroom. It’s not so much as renovating as decorating, but either way it needed a serious upgrade so when Mr C got a bit of a bonus, we knew immediately where the money […]Read More Customer Service 101 – Go the extra mile